October 10, 2017

The parental end-goal with respect to homework is to have children take full responsibility for their assignments; to truly succeed, their motivation needs to come from within. Achieving that ideal may take years of patience and a healthy dose of self-restraint, but there are some tried-and-true strategies that Mounds Park Academy, a private PreK-12 college prep school in Saint Paul, recommends.

Many parents ask, “What should my role be?!” The most critical factor in assessing the appropriate parental role in homework is a child’s age. Typically, parents need to take a much more hands-on role with Lower School students than they do in later years, as their children are learning what it means to be in school and the responsibilities that come with it. In Middle School, students are studying subjects with ever-increasing intensity and complexity; more is required of them every year. The Upper School is where the academic preparation from elementary and middle school plays out and pays off.

The information below offers several overarching recommendations for parents, across the grade levels, and then outlines some more specific guidance.

Your Role PreK-12

Today’s children confront myriad distractions; it’s no longer just the sibling sitting across the kitchen table. Cell phones, iPads, laptops, social media, streaming videos, and the sibling across the kitchen table all provide ample and at-the-ready distractions from the task at hand. Below are some recommendations to keep your child, of any age, focused.

• Create a homework space free from technology and interruption. Provide an environment that is conducive to doing homework (i.e. quiet and consistent place). Collect the cell phones and other electronic devices until it’s a tech-free zone. To the parents of teenagers, this may seem like a daunting, if not impossible, proposition. But a device-free zone is best for student learning.
• Cheer on kids to help motivate them. Kids of all ages appreciate encouragement. Compliment how focused they are, how proud you are of their accomplishments, and how hard they’re working. Believe in your student’s capability and resourcefulness.
• Leave the pen-to-paper to them. When you’re explaining a concept to your child, sometimes it’s just easier to use the pen and show them how to solve the problem. But resist the urge to do that. Offer support to the student, but don’t do the actual homework. Children need to own their work and feel a sense of accomplishment from a job well done. The goal is for it to be more efficient to work independently than it is to get help.
• Set a good example. You may not have homework to do, but you can help model positive behaviors that help your child develop good homework habits. Limit your own screen time, develop healthy sleeping habits, read for pleasure, and manage your own distractions when there are tasks that you need to complete. Talk to your child about your own habits and share ideas that help you.

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